Sulakshana Pandit – Memories

Posted June 10, 2011 7:17 pm by Memories

Sulakshana Pandit

Sulakshana Pandit – Memories

‘My childhood was spent in Cal­cutta — The City of Joy. Like the city, my home was a house of joy too. Ours was a big family — we were three brothers and three sisters. My father was a musician and my mother was a good singer, but she was so shy that she would sing only in the bath­room. I still remember the sound of music in my house. We children had inherited the talent of singing from our father. Every one of us was a good singer. Otherwise, it was a normal household. We had our share of hap­piness and sadness. But our passion was films. We used to love watching films. I was so soft-hearted that when­ever a hero was beaten or there was any kind of violence, I would start howling. My elder sister would beat me and ask me to go out of the room. Two actors who figured prominently in our conversations were Dev saab and Dilip Kumar saab. My elder sister was in love with Dilip Kumar. She would warn us all, ‘Don’t take his name, any of you, he is mine!’ Her friend, on the other hand, had a crush on Dev saab and she would warn of anyone, who even remotely liked her idol. That was what my childhood was all about.

‘When I was about nine, something happened that paved my path to films. My father was invit­ed to attend a mushaira in Bombay. He was supposed to sing there. My elder brother and I also decided to see the big city. My father readily agreed be­cause he could not do it without the company of his two favorite children. Anyway, destiny brought us to Bom­bay and for the first time, we saw the city of dreams. It was here that for the first time, I performed in public at a children’s programme that was held adjacent to my father’s mushaira. Af­ter people heard me, offers began to pour in by the dozen. When my father heard people raving about my voice, he wondered what it was that I had, that had everyone in raptures. So, on his request, I sang for him one night. He was stunned. Here was a prodigy in his house and he didn’t even know about it! From the very next day my training began. We would sit by the sparkling sea right behind our house and practice. I was like a performing monkey. My father would sing and I would copy every note exactly like he sang it.

‘Days went by and I became in­creasingly popular. I was doing more and more shows and soon was known as Baby Sulakshana. I remem­ber one programme where I saw Dilip Kumar for the first time. I was just a kid then and I sang this serious ghazal about the trials and tribulations of the heart. When I was introduced to Dilip saab, he picked me up like a doll and asked me, ‘Child, do you even know where your heart is placed that you are singing songs about it?’ Imagine what I must have felt, to meet a man who was a household favorite. It was on similar occasions like these that I met Mohammad Rafi saab and Kishore saab. I absolutely loved and adored Rafiji. When I saw him I went and touched his feet out of sheer rever­ence. He had already heard me sing and he told his secretary, ‘This little girl is going to make it very big. Make sure you have her address so we can contact her.’ The same thing happened with Kishoreji. He saw me perform at a function and was very impressed.

‘There is one thing I must mention about Kishoreda. He was a real kanjoos man. At the same time, he was a hundred different things. He was emotional, shrewd… you never knew what he was all about. He was a mad man. His lifestyle was so different from what he projected it to be. He hungered for love all his life. Often, when we used to sit together and I chastised him about his lifestyle, he would tell me, Arre, a man like me can never die of heart failure.’ He was such a fun loving person. He used to imag­ine what his funeral would be like — `Kitne log ayenge, kya kya reaction hoga, I can’t tell you right now.’

‘It was Kishoreda who gave me the idea of working in films. Sud­denly out of the blue, one day he asked me, ‘Picture mein kaam karegi?’ I was a little shocked because the thought had never even crossed my mind. When I asked him if the public would accept a singing star, he replied vocif­erously, ‘Why not, I am fighting it, so now you enter the battlefield with me.’

‘What Kishoreda had said, set me thinking. When Ramesh Saigal offered me Sankalp, I was still a little hesitant. He was one of the biggest star makers at that time. He had given the industry, artistes like Dilip Kumar. I still remember what he told me the first time he met me. `I don’t want any other face for my film except yours. You have the beauty, you have the voice, why don’t you utilize it. Let the world see your talent.’ Because of that remark I decided to enter the world of films. I was just 14. The role I had to play was of a child widow. When the film was released it became an instant hit. It collected about 10 awards. I also got the prestigious Ben­gal Critics’ Award.

Sulakshana Pandit with Sanjeev Kumar “I guess I waited too long for Sanjeev.” – Sulakshana Pandit on Sanjeev Kumar

‘After that, like they say, there was no looking back. Offers started pouring in, but I decided to be very selective. At that time I had con­vinced myself that it was not an actress that I wanted to be, but a singer. Then I fell in love with Sanjeev Kumar. I was doing the film Uljhan with him. I was still an innocent girl. We had struck a wonderful rapport with each other. He was madly in love with Hemaji in those days. So, naturally he would come to me with all the problems of his relationship. I felt terrible but I used to console my­self thinking that this was just a phase. Once he got out of it I would tell him how I felt about him. I never did get the chance. My co-artistes would tell me, `Sulakshana, you are what this man needs. You will change his whole life’. Then I heard that Hemaji and Sanjeevji were ” going to be married. The marriage would have materialized, if Jeetuji had not proposed to Hemaji. It was a rath­er dramatic situation. Ultimately, it was Shobha Sip­py who walked down the aisle with Jeetuji. Hema and Jeetu would have been married had Shobha not staked her claim on her childhood sweetheart. She told Hemaji, ‘I was with him since the age of 14. He belongs to me and no one else.’

‘Sanjeevji and I shared a lot in common. He was a Cancerian like me and was also a very emotional human being. Together, we worked in a lot of films — Waqt Ki Deewar, Chehre Pe Chehra, Uljhan, Apnapan… We acted in seven films. San­jeevji was basically a lonely man. He was destined not to marry. I firmly believe that marriages are made in heaven and Sanjeevji’s marriage was not destined to be. I have never loved anyone as much as him. At the time I was involved with him, his doctor told me ‘Don’t care so much for this man, I give him just two years to live.’ But what can you do when your heart is involved? Sanjeevji’s biggest weakness was drinks. He was a heart patient and still he contin­ued to drink heavily. It was like putting acid on a raw wound. There was no one who cared enough to help him. He was sur­rounded by people all the time and because of that I could not help him. His friends, who were also drunkards, took advantage of him. Had I been with him I would have thrown out all his bottles, one by one.

Jeetendra with Sulakshana Pandit “I was becoming possessive of Jeetu…” – Sulakshana Pandit on Jeetendra

‘I have so many beautiful memories. I feel like I have spent half my lifetime waiting for my heroes. Life went on. I got along famously with all the he­roes. But Jeetuji and Vinod Khan­na were very special to me. May­be I shouldn’t be saying this but I am a mad woman, so I will. I loved Jeetuji too. There cannot be a bet­ter human being than him. I re­member, one day he came into my make-up room and told me, ‘Sulakshana I am getting married.’ I almost fainted. I had not realized my feelings for him until that moment. Now when I think back I realize that it was just childishness, my possessive­ness, where Jeetu was concerned. We remain good friends to this day. Both Shobha and he are very precious to me. One other man I really liked was Vin­od Khanna. He was so innocent and genuinely a nice person.

‘Rajesh Khanna was one actor who was very, very interested in girls. Before I met him I used to think the world of him. But when I met him, and saw what a keen interest he took in girls, I didn’t like him as much. He is the only hero, girls have given their lives for. You won’t believe this, but huge droves of girls used to come and plead with me to introduce them to him. I used to take them to my room, feed them with fruits and tell them, `Why are you burning yourself for him? He is a man not a God.’ I think his cha­risma lay in his voice, his eyes. But he was a very arrogant man. Two other actors who really irritate me are Raj Babbar and Shatrughan Sinha. Not that they have tried any dirty tricks with me but psychologically speaking I still identi­fy them as villains. I think of them as rapists and bad men.

‘Two people who have made me cry buc ets of tears were dance master Kamal and Devyani Chaubal. Devi used to write vicious lies. I used to read the gossip and cry my eyes out in the bathroom. God, what a woman! ‘Kamal master used to make me cry for a different reason. He was a perfectionist. Everytime he had to perfect my dance steps he would yell at me. ‘Pata nahin kahan kahan se chale aate hain heroine banne. Dance karna to aata nahi.’ That would set me off. I was ter­rified of his anger. I refused to work in films if Kamal master was the dance director. Ulti­mately, Jeetuji counselled me and I became more comfortable with Kamalji.

‘After Sanjeevji died I went into an acute depression. I almost killed myself. But it is God’s will that I live and so here I am still leading my life, though I haven’t yet recovered totally. I have never really been able to come out of my shell. I have locked the connecting door to my room and whole day I sit and see beautiful films, listen to beautiful music and write ‘poetry. I am gathering the cour­age to face life and the world again. I hunger for the mike. I want to sing. But I have also decided that only after I have broken the monopoly in the music industry, will I die. Let everyone have their share of singing. When they have satis­fied themselves only then will I enter. I made a mistake by trying to compete with Lataji and Ashaji when I was young. It was like a bird trying to fight a tigress. They are goddesses, avatars of Saraswati. When they were young they didn’t allow anyone to come near them. I was always entranced by Lataji’s songs. When we sang together I would inevitably forget my lines, so fascinated was I by her singing. She would then help me with the cues. She would clutch my hand just before my lines, to indicate that I was to begin now. At the end of my lines she would clap a hand over my mouth. She used to laugh and say `Sulakshana, turn mera gana mat suno. Sunogi to khud ki lines bhool jaogi.’ You give me all the world’s heroines and I will still prefer Lataji to them. I love her a lot.

‘Now, I am planning to enter films and also sing. I am still searching for my confidence. Once I gain that, I will definitely comeback. I have a lot of film offers on hand. I’ll do elderly roles. Hope and pray that I get well fast. (As told to Shubha Mini in 1996)

  1. 6 years ago  

    Sankalp

    she hd d potential2 b a singing star in 70s n 80s, bt her relationship with sanjeev kumar n her obsession2 b next lata ruined her career n later her personal life too…

  2. 6 years ago  

    sanjeev thakur

    May God bless her this golden heart woman. I don’t know for what fault of her destiny did so much worst thing to her

  3. 6 years ago  

    Sankalp

    saw her niece shweta pandit postin on twitter dt her health has deteriorated a lot…hope she recovers…shes gon tru hell 4 no fault of hers…

  4. 6 years ago  

    manjit

    Hope she is well soon and get back to films and singing.Being a huge Sanjeev Kumar fan i really feel for her.I like her too.They made a good pair.Like Jeetendra moved on,she should’ve married atleast by 1990.All the best and happy new year to her.

  5. 5 years ago  

    kunda

    hope she returns to good health.what a destiny.sanjeev is gone and she is left to suffer.

  6. 5 years ago  

    MARAZBAN NAVALWALA

    I WAS LUCKY ENOUGH TO WATCH THE WHOLE FAMILY DURING A STAGE PERFORMANCE YEARS AGO AT NAGPUR. SULAKSHNAJI WAS NOT ONLY A BEAUTY TO ADMIRE BUT HAD A VERY BEAUTIFUL VOICE TO TOUCH EVERYONES HEART. SHE WAS A VOICE WHICH CAME FROM THE HEART. SINGERS LIKE HER ARE MISSED AND NEED A COMEBACK. MAY SHE ALWAYS REMAIN HAPPY WHEREVER SHE IS. IT WAS SAD TO LEARN OF HER HEALTH AND HER PAST BUT GOD IS GREAT SULAKSHNAJI,FOR THE GOLDEN VOICE HE HAS GIVEN YOU AND THE MUSICAL FAMILY WHICH ENTERTAINS US EVEN TODAY. A BIG GOD BLESS!

  7. 5 years ago  

    akash mishra

    i am a great fan of sulakshna ji.i was ttttto tears reading her story.what a heart rending piece of her writing.it seems nobody helped her to come out of her shell.this article was written in 1996 ,and then only she had planned to sing and act.now its 17 years and i have not heard and seen about her anywhere.it looks she has just vanished from the face of earth.i request her friends and family memebers to ensure that she is given the courage to act and sing and stand on her feet and shine in the world and show to the world that she has overcome the sadness of sanjeev kumar.i wish i were her frd or her relative to have helped her.dont know how to contact her and talk ro her and help her.request anybody to give my email to reach me so that i could give her courage and counsel her.pl reach out to me on my email akash2033@yahoo.com i feel her life should not be wasted like this.she is a great person…akash.

  8. 3 years ago  

    susheel

    i love her since my childhood, a wanted that the my wife should have a face like her,a good smile like her ,i want to see her in movies and may she live long

  9. 3 years ago  

    susheel

    i want to talk to her,see her wish her good health love her please contact me on my e mail susheelalfa@yahoo.com

  10. 3 years ago  

    shalini

    I would like to know what happens to her anno 2014.
    the above intervieuw is taken nearly 20 years back so please ad some latest news about her.

  11. 3 years ago  

    asif

    Hi, it is tearful artificial about Sulaksna ji.. i dont have much word to express the deepth of my sadness. i will appreciate if she will back to film industry & i wish she will be the best as she was in her days. lots of love and duas for her.

  12. 1 week ago  

    jatin

    I am your die heart fan. I miss u. Your r so gorgeous. No actresses will like u…you r such a god gifted actress.. I like your smile your shyness your singing your acting….I am your Biggest fan

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